MAKE LOVE TO YOURSELF by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D., Dean, School of Tantra
Prepare a love-nest. Reserve several hours when you’re wide awake without pressing concerns. Prepare to receive and give leisurely, sensitive, unstinting sexual delight to the most important person in your world. Make the boudoir you create warm and comfortable. Provide it with both a full-length mirror and a large hand-held one. Supply it with sensual music, fragrances, flowers, snacks, sacraments, massage oil or lube and plenty of large, soft towels. Make sure no phone, computer, delivery person or dropper-by can intrude on your tryst with the exalted person you plan to honor. Dress in your sexiest clothes.
Then invite yourself in; YOU are the guest, the most important lover you’ll ever have. You.
Turn on the music, relax, imbibe. Stand before the mirror and slowly take off each of your garments. Look at your body objectively
REFLECT ON YOUR REFLECTION
Turn at different angles to the mirror; see yourself from several angles. Watch your whole body flow as you move. Focus in turn on head, torso, legs, then crown, hair, face, neck, chest, back, belly, hips, buttocks, thighs, knees, shins, hands, feet, toes (but save genitals) as you dance to the mirror. Pick up the hand mirror.
Stand before your image. See your reflection. Reflect on your body from every vantage.
Complete the following sentences aloud to the person in the mirror:
a. The features I can see that I like most about my bodily appearance are ***.
b. The qualities and functions I like most about my body are ***.
c. What I like most about my health is ***.
d. The features I like least about my body as I see it in the mirror are ***.
e. The qualities and functions I least value about my body are ***.
f. What I like least about my health is ***.
h. My liabilies of looks, health and functioning are ***.
Identify with your it; BECOME YOUR BODY. As body, say:
a. Here’s what, as Body, I find difficult about serving as this soul’s soma ***.
b. Here’s what, as Body, I find satisfying about serving as this soul’s soma ….
c. Here’s how I, as [your name]’s body, feel about the way [your name]’s Inner Critic reacts to me *** .
e. Tell the person in the mirror, “What I, your body, would you like you to value me for is ***.
f. [your name], here’s what else, as your body want you to know from my perspective *** .
Disidentify with your body. Center yourself, so you simultaneously feel and accept feedback from both your body and your intellect.
As [your name]’s Center, complete the following to your body; first speak, later write what you said:
a. What I appreciate about you, Body, is [include what Body, in “e.” above wanted to be valued for] *** .
b. Say aloud, “I’ll take the following steps to improve or accept my looks, health and functioning *** .
Use both mirrors. LOOK IN YOUR ORIFICES.
Focus on, then BECOME YOUR GENITALS, roleplay your genitals. As Genitals, how do you feel. How did you feel in the mirror examination? What, as Genitals, is your existence as your person’s genitals?
Chant the Sanskrit words in italics for each chakra, then say aloud to the person in the mirror, what you, as the voice of your body, want and need.
Say “Lam,” touch your rosebud with your hand and ask your Earthy essence to come to your genital shrine for joy.
Chant “Vam,” touch your genitals and invite your Sensual subself.
Say “Ram,” rub your belly and invite the spirit of your inner Strength to join the fun.
Say “Yam,” touch your heart and invoke your Romantic inner voice.
Say “Ham,” inviting your sound-maker Singer self to be present as you make love to yourself.
Chant “Ooo,” rub your third eye (between your eyebrows) and summons your inner Visioner.
Make the sound “Mmm” and invite your Universal Consciousness to be present too.
Thrice, chant, in single exhale, all the chakras’ syllables in succession (lam, vam,ram, yam, ham, ooo, mmm) and feel each activated and the flow of energy up your spine (your central flute), out the top of your head and out your crown toward the divine. This brings the spiritual to the material. Then suck in your navel and pull your innards upward and imagine you send a root down your spine to the center of the Earth, bringing the spiritual to the material. Experience yourself as the conscious bridge between the spiritual and the material, between hHaven and Earth.
Masturbate, pleasure yourself slowly as you look in your own eyes in the mirror.
Tell yourself aloud how much you love making love to yourself. Say, “I love you dear, [your name].”
Affirm your deepest devotion to yourself as you orgasm.